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After two years of struggling to get and stay pregnant, Zanna Roberts Rassi’s doctor said to her, “Congratulations, you’re pregnant. Not just a little pregnant, but like really pregnant.” And for anyone who’s been there, you know what that means: Twins.

“I told my husband [Milk Studios founder Mazdack] Rassi and he just burst out laughing and said, brilliant.”

And just like that, two new projects were added to the Rassi portfolio. The fashion polymath is already an editor at Marie Claire, a stylist (clients include True Religion and Pantene), a correspondent for E! News and a Project Runway regular.

She’s also funny, British and adorable, like a woodland sprite who chose Manhattan’s Chelsea neighborhood, as her habitat and a style that’s more sleek with a hint of rock-n-roll than ethereal bohemian (though we’re sure she could pull that off, too). Next week we’ll share Zanna’s fertility trials and tribulations – there were plenty. But first: A peek into life as a professional city mom with 4-month-old twins.

What She Does All Day

Fashion editor, TV fashion correspondent and stylist. One day I’m on a campaign shoot for a fashion client the next interviewing celebs or designers for E! News the next on the Today show talking fashion tips then to a brainstorming meeting at Marie Claire. Never the same day twice.

The Beginning

My parents were in NY when the twins were born. They waved us off to the hospital at 5am for the planned C-section. We floated around on cloud nine for the three weeks afterwards.

Double Vision… Twice!

We are fortunate enough to have a place out of the city – a very old cottage and garden in New Jersey that reminds me of where I was born: Manchester, UK. But this means we had to buy four of everything. Four cribs, four bouncy chairs, two double strollers and you get the picture! Finding bargains is essential – like the $100 cribs from Ikea!

I’ve Got This Figured Out

With twins, you have to have systems and schedules. Demand feeding would be a disaster. We would never sleep or eat. Its about always having the next step lined up. The swaddle flat and ready to go when they are ready to go down, the milk warm for straight after the bath so they don’t scream the house down, the diaper bag set at all times, bedding and laundry done once a day so nothing piles up. A place for everything and everything in its place. You can’t drop a beat. And when they’re sleeping, you have to prep for the next thing!

On Names

Rumi, after the Persian poet, my husband is of Persian descent. Juno is ancient Greek goddess. The mother of all gods. Wow, they have some lofty names to live up to!

Mini Workouts

The only way I can help from falling asleep some afternoons is by lifting Rumi over my head. She weighs nearly 10lbs – I figure twenty of those along with daily carrying means I should get some bicep situation happening!

Best Buy

The amazing double stroller the Bugaboo Donkey with an Andy Warhol floral print. It’s fashionable and functional.

Dressing The Bump

I began pregnancy with a personal challenge of not wearing leggings and T-shirts every day. I began #stylethebump on Instagram, this being the way I would stop myself from being lazy! My key is to still dress like yourself. (You dont have to look like a giant baby just because you’re having one!) For me that was a little rock’n’roll in the mix. Leather J Brand leggings were my lifesaver. Invest in one key piece.

Magic Ingredient

We have full time help, Karen. She’s been there since day 4. Our sweet, smart saviour! Since I went back to work a few weeks later, she has been imperative. I respect stay at home mums (like my mother was) more than you can imagine – it’s harder in a different way than working all day. And hands-off Karen anyone reading this!

Travel Necessity

I keep a very organized diaper bag. But it’s not a diaper bag, it’s a fabulous Tumi backpack with a thousand pockets.

The Perfect Moment

It’s Sunday at 8am in our house in New Jersey. The four of us lay in bed. Rassi is snoozing and Juno is sleeping on his chest. I’m nursing Rumi. My mum and dad are cooking up breakfast downstairs whilst “baby symphony” plays in the background. It was magic. I cried!

On Nursing

I couldn’t produce enough for two, so I supplemented with formula from the beginning. I think of breast milk as medicine. I pumped four times a day. Initially, nursing two babies at once, I got the hang of it, it’s like holding two footballs. I don’t know how anyone does it when they’re bigger!

On Pumping

I’ve pumped on set, in the back of an RV, in public toilets. One special day I was in the bathroom at Milk Studios shooting whilst on a conference call, texting my nanny, and looked in the mirror and burst out laughing. Multitasking at its finest.

* A Tip! *

If they won’t latch, wet the bottom of their nose with milk, and they’ll tip they their head up and then you can pop the nipple in!

#Momfail

I missed a doctor’s appointment and I felt so, so guilty.

On Future Rassis

We have a few on ice because we did IVF. That’s the most miraculous thing. They’re breathing, eating, smiling beings after three months on ice! I can’t get my head around that. Such a miracle.

3 Hours To Yourself

I’d catch up with family on the phone, and go sit in a park and drink rose with girlfriends!

A Night With Your Man

It’s our 5-year wedding anniversary, and I’m surprising him with a trip uptown to stay at the Carlyle. I plan to drink champagne, chat like adults with no agenda, and sleep. For us, not getting on a plane is such a luxury!

Can’t Buy Enough

For the girls, Earth Mama Angel Baby oil and Nununu stars and stripes collection. For me, Blueprint green juice is amazing when you don’t have time to do something good for yourself. And Lansinoh nipple cream. My friend Mariana brought it to the hospital for me – life saver.

New Obsession

Rather than trawling boutiques for the coolest little-people things, I hop on Mini Style and find the most unique clothes, accessories, and toys. Its a one-stop shop for buying gifts. Crushing right now on the new Mini X Thief & Bandit collaboration.

On Becoming Her Mother

She’s creeping in. I hear her voice in mine. Morals, manners, family values… I hear it when I talk to Rassi about the girls.

Cricket’s Circle IRL: Rachel’s Sip & See

Last month we gathered for what can best be summed up as Cricket’s Circle come to life: a Sip & See celebrating our founder Rachel and her second baby, Gemma. Not only did it channel the warmth, fun, and beauty we strive for on the site, but many of the guests – awesome moms with serious accomplishments – are CC profile alumnus (including the event’s gracious and charming hostess, One Kings Lane co-founder Ali Pincus). We had to share a few of the photos with you because it seemed fitting that it’s not a true CC moment without our readers. Plus, you’re going to want to steal a few of these high-impact, minimal-effort moves that made it so memorable. And speaking of wanting to steal…

Like mother, like daughter: Gemma is already killing it in the footwear department.

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THE SCENE

The Rooftop at the NoMad Hotel, a warmly elegant space with layered antique rugs and stunning city views – made all the more lush with plenty of flowers.

Copy this: Instead of dealing with floral arrangements, go to the flower market (or: Whole Foods EARLY) and choose the most enormous, stunning blooms, and put single stems in clusters of glass vases. How crazy-beautiful are these dinnerplate dahlias?

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The Guest List

Lto R: One Kings Lane co-founder Ali Pincus, Ivanka Trump Creative Director and blogger Marisa Kraxberger, Ivanka Trump, Compas’ Amanda Tarter, FEED Projects SVP Kim Nemser, co-founder Mini Mode Colleen Crivello, Instagram’s Director of Fashion Partnerships Eva Chen.

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The Meal

LOTS of coffee (hi, this is a working moms’ brunch), a tower of flaky, melt-in-your-mouth croissants (let’s split one! OK wait, no, let’s each have our own), savory quiche, and the biggest hit: A creamy avocado toast our team is still dreaming about.

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Copy This: The NoMad’s Chef Daniel Humm kindly shared his recipe that we’ve already recreated at home twice:

I took 3 avocados with about a ¼ cup of lime juice, added salt to taste, and pureed them in the blender until really smooth. You will need to cut the avocados up pretty small to get the puree started in the blender.

For the bread, I used Miche which is a rye bread. I took a good amount of olive oil and brushed both sides of the bread. The toast is at its best in a really hot oven – about 500 degrees with a high fan, if you have convection. After the bread is toasted, I smeared the Avocado puree on the bread and topped with fresh slices of avocado, fleur de sel, and cracked black pepper.

The Warm Fuzzies

Host Ali welcomed us all to the brunch and then revealed the day’s “activity”: We were all to answer one of three questions for baby Gemma on pale pink paper to be bound into a book.

Copy This: Grab some thick cardstock in your favorite color and a selection of pens so guests can create their own messages – it’s a perfect keepsake for mom and an easy and sweet way for guests to pass on well wishes and advice. PLUS: Prep each plate with an automatic thank-you (slash table decor) with a color-coordinated bag of sweets. Whether guests polish them off on the way home or ration them out as potty training treats for their own littles, it’s a perfect way to wrap up the event on a memorable and sweet (see what we did there?) note.

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All images by Belathée Photography

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You know when you stumble upon a magazine spread or Instagram rabbit hole of a picturesque dinner party of perfectly dressed people having (what looks like) riveting conversation over farm-fresh food at a beautifully set table, and you start to feel really bad about your Saturday night of Chinese food and bad TV?

Karen Mordechai is responsible for those photos. But her aim isn’t to make you feel guilty: It’s to inspire you to get in the kitchen to cook and share meals. Her company, Sunday Suppers, started out as a series of beautiful, low-key dinner parties… and 5 years later has transformed into one of NYT’s top cookbooks and a second burgeoning business. Along the way, Karen has become a tastemaker endorsed by the likes of The Today Show, Martha Stewart, and Food & Wine.

Her aesthetic strips away the unnecessary – leaving simple beauty. One look at her Instagram handle, and you’ll understand why she has 233K followers and is considered as much a lifestyle expert as a cook and photographer.

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Perhaps unsurprisingly, her presence is as calming as her images. Talking to her is soothing – there is no chaos in her voice. But instead of being envious of how seamlessly she manages her businesses and home life, you think wait a minute, maybe I can make a beautiful dinner tonight too!

Meet the inspiring Karen Mordechai.

#Obsessed

Because of our new line ILĀ , I’m obsessed with ingredients — their quality, how they are sourced, and how to use them beautifully in the kitchen. I’m equally obsessed with my little girl and have been every step of the way. She is starting kindergarten this fall and I’m not sure how that’s possible. The time has flown by and I just want to keep her 4 3/4 and right by my side forever.

Stressing Over…

Launching a new business! We’re about a week or so into our Kickstarter for a product line that has been my dream for many years. And seeing it come to life is both amazing and intense. I think I had forgotten how much care and attention goes into a young business.

Dream Meal

We just got back from Italy, so I would say a Tuscan steak, burrata, tomatoes and fresh truffle pasta.

Go-To Family Dinner

Hands down fish tacos. They’re super easy and also great for when you have friends over.

In Her Fridge

My refrigerator, as expected, is always full. Think greens, broccoli, kale, a cooked pot of quinoa, roasted beets, and staples like avocados, mushrooms, goat cheese and olives for Sophia (they are her favorite).

Chef Dreams

I would love to cook a meal with Julia Child or Alice Waters.

Wakey, Wakey

In the morning, I go to Instagram and my email— usually in that order.

On The Old Balance Topic…

Like most moms, I really struggle with balance. I’m hard on myself about finding time for Sophia, my husband, work, and myself without having any category feel under-nourished. I over-do things as a general rule and should let some of that go, but you know, easier said than done.

Life Hack

I try to streamline food making, so I’ll make a big pot of grains on Sunday for the week, or roast beets, or a whole chicken. And then lunches and dinners are easier. I spend less time cooking and more time on assembly. I’m also a huge fan of lists. I make a grid in my notebook and separate all the categories – home, work, studio, personal, Sophia. It’s kind of like a reflection of all the things bouncing around my brain, but I can see them visually on paper— in distinct boxes— and somehow that makes it easier to manage.

Raising Kids In NYC

The best thing is that there is culture at every turn. And the early exposure to the realities of life – both good and bad. We recently had to explain homelessness to Sophia because a man on the subway got up and told his story and asked for help. I saw an empathy in her eyes and I thought that’s actually very cool – what an interesting perspective she must have at the age of 4.

Parenting Is HARD

The care and the nurturing part comes easy. The rest becomes a challenge – becoming the parent that you would admire, setting boundaries and being structured, but also creating an ease and fluidity. These things challenge me all the time.

Her Comfy Clothes

l like linen, loose, comfortable, and hopefully a little chic with a pair of cool kicks. My go-to brands are Madewell, Black Crane, Elizabeth Suzann, and Steven Alan.

How She Unwinds

I need some form of quiet time. I’m actually a very introverted person and the time alone recharges me: Having coffee outside at Marlow and Sons. Stealing time for a yoga class at Abhaya. Or getting a massage at Great Jones Spa. A weekend away with a girlfriend is also a must at least once a year.

#Momfail

I actually forgot to pick up Sophia from school! It was the early days, when she first started nursery school, and somehow I thought I was supposed to pick her up at 4 p.m. So I sat gingerly sipping a tea at a coffee shop and at 3:15 pm the phone rang. It was her teacher asking where we were, so of course I rushed over frantically.

Eva Amurri Martino

Eva Amurri Martino charmed us in our recent interview, and then once again when she launched her blog Happily Eva After. Turns out the actress (and mom of Marlowe, 1, and daughter of Susan Sarandon) is also a funny, relatable writer when it comes to motherhood, style, and healthy living.

And yet, her recent post, where she opens up about her miscarriage with baby number two, moved us deeply: So much so that we got her permission to share it with you all. We appreciate how openly and honestly she conveys her sentiments, and, in the process, makes it easier for other women to share their stories. Thank you, Eva.

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It’s with a lot of heartache that I tell you Kyle, Marlowe, and I have some sad family news to share. I am sharing in the hopes that we can be a light for people going through similar circumstances, and to remind myself and others that there is no shame in voicing our heartbreaks and allowing others to comfort us.

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A couple of days ago, the baby I was carrying passed away. I was nine weeks pregnant. When we found out we were expecting baby number two, we were scared and joyful all at the same time. Two babies under two! I was filled with nervous excitement– so amazed that Marlowe would have a sibling so close in age. Kyle and I hoped it was another girl. I was feeling great, with only minimal nausea and as much fatigue is to be expected with a toddler and the first trimester of pregnancy. While we were on vacation in Hawaii, we took some “Big Sis” photos with Marlowe, and began to tell her about the baby. Towards the end of our trip, I began to experience some spotting, but once I returned to Los Angeles, I got the all-clear from my doctor. We heard the heartbeat on multiple occasions, and watched our baby growing at a normal rate. When we celebrated Marlowe’s birthday, we shared the news with our families and closest friends.

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At my next visit for a routine ultrasound, however, the baby’s heart was no longer beating. Just like that, it was all over. I remained in the office and went through the procedure to remove the baby from my uterus. I am so grateful to my wonderful doctor and his amazing staff, who were all so kind, compassionate, and loving with our family throughout the experience. I couldn’t have asked for better care as I went through such a painful day.

My doctor told me that this was most likely a case of there being an underlying major developmental problem with the fetus, and that it had simply stopped growing. That nature had taken its course in the most brutally honest and simple way that nature sometimes works. He also shared with me that this is heartbreakingly common (I won’t tell you the specific statistic because I don’t want to give anyone any unnecessary anxiety, but let’s just say we definitely all know at least one person this has happened to) Of course the fact that it is common doesn’t do anything to help the pain. But what was so shocking to me is how common miscarriages are, versus how little I hear them talked about. I’m not sure if this is because people are ashamed to suffer this loss, or whether the loss is simply too painful to share (I can see how this could be the case also).

To anybody enduring similar heartache, I will tell you what I’m feeling and processing as a result of this loss: A lot of confusion, some anger, deep sadness, and also an immense amount of gratitude. I have realized in the past forty-eight hours how incredibly grateful I am for the magic that I have in my life. I have the most amazingly supportive husband, and two loving families. I have wonderful friends, who have brought me nearly to my knees with their care and compassion during this hard time. And most of all, I have a healthy and happy daughter who I can hold in my arms and whisper in to her ear how much I adore her and how blessed I feel that I was lucky enough to bring her in to the world. I have so much.

Of course what I don’t have, and what I never will have, is this one little angel who has slipped away from me. And while it will take time for me to make peace with that fact, it gives me a lot of solace knowing that I told– that I have shared its existence with you, that it mattered, and that we loved it. And that will have to do.

Thank you for listening to our story.

xoxox

EAM