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cc_blog_spacerYou’ve probably heard the one about how the designer behind the famous “Morning After Bag” became a mom, right? There goes glamorous, fancy-free nights and here comes early morning feedings and clothes launder.

But Rebecca Minkoff hasn’t lost an shred of her fierceness. In fact, the birth of her son Luca three years ago has emboldened her even more.

First of all, his birth was natural. Drug-free, ladies. And when we saw her out and about a few weeks later, wearing Luca in her Ergo, it was at a cocktail party. Then we heard she nursed during meetings! And when we asked the designer herself, the truth was even wilder. She co-sleeps! She even pumps in meetings! (“It was awkward in Japan. They’d evacuate the room.”) She almost got in a bar-fight while wearing her baby! (“This girl was talkin sh*#. I was like, do you have a problem with me?!”)

So here’s this uber-successful designer – her designs are sold in more than 1,000 stores in 35 countries – making the kinds of choices (nursing, co-sleeping, front-pack as uniform) frequently associated with attachment parenting and  lovey-dovey hippies. She’s a fashion biz badass with a serious motherly instinct.

Her tour de force continues with two special arrivals this summer: In June, a flagship store on Greene Street in Soho and in August, baby #2. “I’m trying to figure out how I’m going to do that and have a fashion show a month later,” she says. We say: refresh your bad self with the sage stories you shared with us. Here’s 8 ways Rebecca stuck to her guns – the heck with what you think.
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cc_blog_rebecca_tipscc_blog_rebecca_tips1I met Brandon Holley when she was Editor in Chief of Lucky magazine. I was pregnant and planning to do natural childbirth, but she had a home birth. I was impressed! She’s the editor of a magazine, but she still came as close to nature as possible.

cc_blog_rebecca_tips2You only get a little nugget of time before they grow older. I feel like I saw too many people take a clinical approach to childbirth. And I was like, what’s the point?

cc_blog_rebecca_tips3My friend never breastfed because the nurse said she was starving her kid. They’re nurses, not police! You have to take the stance of this is what I’m gonna do. You have to command respect in yourself first.

cc_blog_rebecca_tips4Before the baby, I wanted to nurse for at least a year. And once we settled into a routine I thought I might go for two. But he broke up with me at 15 months. I’d follow him around with my boob! My husband told me: It’s his decision, let it go.

cc_blog_rebecca_tips5We’ve never had a set time for dinner because our schedules are so crazy. So, when we’re all together as a family, we eat. My husband and I believe in treating Luca as an adult in a little persons body –  we trust him and he tells us when he’s hungry.

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Too many people are scared of what other people think. When it came to nursing and pumping, I didn’t care. This is the best thing I can do for my kid. I was always: Don’t eff with me, this is what I’m gonna do.

cc_blog_rebecca_tips7The longest I’ve been gone for work is 5 days, and I’ll never go longer than that. It wasn’t good for me, it wasn’t good for him. But I know fashion editors that leave the baby for 3 weeks; I just can’t do that. You have to do what you feel comfortable with.

cc_blog_rebecca_tips8We’ve had to roll with it. Luca slept with us until he was a year old – in our bed until 7 months and then in a crib in the room. He learned to basically “pole vault” out of his crib, so then we trained him again, but we were traveling a lot and the jet lag made it all fall apart. He soon got his own room, but he started crawling into our bed at 6am. So what. I figure, there’s gonna be a point where he doesn’t want me. It’s OK if he crawls into my bed for now.

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Joanna Goddard

Joanna Goddard is America’s sweetheart of the blog world – a hefty title, no doubt, but one that she lives up to in every way. Her beloved site, A Cup of Jo, started as a post-breakup distraction on nights and weekends, but over time, the honest, well-written, and thoughtful posts have earned the former magazine editor a devoted audience (take a look-see at all of those comments!) and a wildly successful business.

On any given week, women from around the world flock to her posts on everything from a cute clothing line you’ve never heard of to bikini waxes (she’s anti!) to idyllic vacations to battling postpartum depression (she did, twice – more on that below). It’s that mix of girl talk, inspiration, and real life struggle that keeps us checking in every day.

After years of devoted reading, we got the chance to chat with the delightful mom of two (Toby is 4, Anton is 1.5) about her writing, her life, and what she’ll never cover on the blog. Without further ado, the ultra-charming (and yet, very real) Joanna Goddard.

Master of Authenticity

When I’m writing a post about a personal experience, I pretend like I’m writing an email to my mom or sister – that’s the language I use. And afterwards, I send it to my husband to make sure I’ve described it truthfully just as it happened.

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The Good & The Bad

I think it’s important for women to share both ups and downs because that’s just reality. I want people to be able to relate to my blog. And when I do mention something I’m struggling with, I’m always blown away by the empathy and intimate comments people leave – it makes me feel like I have this meaningful relationship with people I have never met.

Fan Girls

People have come up to us in the most unexpected places: on vacation in Amsterdam, at a wedding in Charlottesville, Virginia. I love it! For years, it was just me, alone with my computer on my bed, so it was really nice to have people approach me. Some of my good friends are people I met through the site.

Kids on the Interweb

When the boys were babies, I was totally fine with sharing their photos and stories because everyone goes through the same things (lack of sleep, hiring childcare, etc). Now that Toby is older, he is starting to become his own person and he goes through things in life that are specific to him, and I’m becoming much more careful about what I share about him. I feel really connected to my readers, so our family life will always be a narrative thread on the blog, but long-term, I want to put more focus on the women’s lifestyle stories, like house tours, recipes, style, motherhood, and essays from other women.

Her Blogroll

I love Dinner A Love Story: Jenny Rosenstrach is so smart and wise. I’ve gotten really into The Atlantic in the past year – love that it’s more lifestyle driven. And South African-based Miss Moss has great taste and finds such cool stuff online.

She’ll Never Ever Ever…

I’ve never covered dieting. I’m so not interested in it. People have enough pressure on them. Plus, I want the blog to feel like an escape.

Major Perk

Having a personal blog forces you to take lots of photos and have a journal of your family life – I’m really grateful for that!

The Old Debate

We recently made the move from Manhattan to Brooklyn. I thought I would miss the West Village, but I love our new hood Carroll Gardens – it’s like the West Village but without the annoying stuff like tourists, massive crowds, loud ambulances, and delivery trucks. We think about moving to California (my twin sister lives in San Francisco) all the time, and Instagram is not helpful in the depths of winter! A backyard sounds amazing, but we love New York.

The Perks of Raising Kids in NYC

1. I love playground culture here so much. After I had Toby, I felt isolated in the beginning, so I would take him as a newborn to the playground, sit on the bench, and talk to nannies and moms. I never had to plan it, and there were always people there, which I found so reassuring (still do).
2. You can breastfeed in public without any fanfare. There’s so much going on at all times that no one is phased by it.
3. The diversity. Toby’s exposed to so many different cultures at school, and we love taking the boys to try different kinds of ethnic food. I asked where they wanted to go for dinner the other night, and one said “falafel” while the other said “sushi” – I loved that!

The Downside

The school system can be stressful to navigate. And it’s so expensive! That’s the real bummer. I would love for my kids to be able to run free a little more. I try to never say, “be careful” because I don’t want to nag them all the time, but it would be nice to live next to more woods or parks so they could wander freely.

Remember When…

I get so nostalgic when ages and stages pass by, and I didn’t anticipate that. When your 1-year-old becomes a 2-year-old, there is some loss there. You love each phase so exquisitely that it almost hurts when it’s gone. I want them to grow up but I don’t: it’s so bittersweet.

Drawing The Line

I would never write about anything that would embarrass my family. I don’t cover something if it isn’t my story to tell, and I am very cognizant of privacy. I usually don’t share something that’s really hard until it’s over because if you’re writing about something while you’re in it, the reader can feel the weight and heaviness of it all. It feels more balanced when you have come out the other side and have perspective to share.

Dealing With Postpartum Depression

I had postpartum depression and anxiety with both boys. I remember having all these awful thoughts and feelings – I’m a bad mom, my husband doesn’t love me – that’s the illness telling you that, it’s not actually happening. It sounds hokey, but my mom told me to come up with a mantra, and when your mind starts spinning, repeat the mantra. Mine was something to the effect of: I’m trying my best every day and aiming for just good enough during this time. Going on walks and feeling fresh air on my face was helpful. And watching mindless TV like Friends helped relax me. For women going through this, I recommend talking to a doctor. This is a great website where you can find a specialist and support groups near you, which is such a relief. Also, just know you’re not alone or going crazy – this happens to so many people. You’ll be so proud of yourself when you look back and see how you got through something so hard.

Secret Talents & Obsessions

My guilty pleasure is The Bachelor. I’m addicted to the show. I’ve also recently gotten into reading psychological thrillers like Gone Girl and The Girl on The Train. And for secret talents, I can fake a bunch of accents, including random regional U.S. accents, like Chicago or Southern California. (Have you ever seen Amy Walker? She’s my hero!)

Perfect Family Moment

I really love family bike rides. My husband is a wuss and won’t take the babies on his bike, so I have Anton in front and Toby in back. Toby is singing behind me, and Anton is playing with the bike bell. We are headed to a park or a playground. Of course, Alex’s bike is a cool vintage Schwinn with a special gold bell, and my bike is so lame with a hamburger bell.

Dinner With Kids

I’ve actually found if we take the boys to kid-friendly restaurants, they get more rambunctious than if we take them to a quiet grown-up spot. I think the calm makes them more calm. We love the Odeon, and when we take them to our local sushi spot Koto, they are on their best behavior. For more family-friendly places, we love to ride bikes to Brooklyn Crab for seafood and mini golf, and the Brooklyn Beer Hall feels very European, so you feel cool and the kids still have fun.

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From the moment you bring that baby home from the hospital, you become razor-focused on one thing: Getting some much-needed shuteye. It will seem, at times, that you will see a unicorn before your sweet – wait, AWAKE, AGAIN?! — baby sleeps through the night.

When the going gets tough, we turn to Erica Komisar, a New York-based psychotherapist and parenting coach with twenty years of experience, for parenting help. Here is her sleep whispering wisdom in 13 useful tidbits. Night night, sleep tight.

The Infant Set

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Newborns need up to 17 hours of sleep a day(!)
for healthy brain development. That’s generally split between small bursts of a few hours throughout a 24-hour period, NOT consecutively, through the night.

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Sleeping through the night is one of baby’s most important developmental milestones.
But every child develops at her own pace so remember: Comparison is the thief of joy (and often as a result — precious, precious sleep).

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Sleep can be taught but can also change on a dime.
In other words, don’t Facebook brag about that first stretch of 6 hours unless you’re prepared to eat your words.

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Before you cut out night feedings, make sure baby’s getting enough nutrition throughout the day.
That means your pediatrician has given you the okay – or some recommend making sure baby’s getting 2.5 ounces of milk or formula per pound (so a 12 pound baby should have 30 ounces before bed).

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Toss the nightlight.
A dark room is like a dose of melatonin for baby. Invest in black-out drapes, nix the nightlight, and make sure there are no sneaky lights in the room (humidifiers are often a culprit).

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Your phone could hinder precious sleep.
Moms who are often distracted during the day are more likely to find their baby waking up at all hours, as they see nighttime as the opportunity to get undivided attention. Unlike friends, babies don’t seem to mind when you’re half asleep for one-on-one time.

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Your favorite moments now might haunt you in the future.
Anyone who’s ever rocked, breast-, or bottle-fed a baby to sleep knows it’s downright dreamy, but it’s also a tough habit to break. Have it both ways by doing your thing, then wake her ever so slightly (think blowing on her face, a foot tickle) so she goes down “drowsy but awake”.

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Listen closely to your baby’s cries.
The more you listen, they better you’ll be able to judge if she actually needs something (a rhythmic, non-stop cry generally means hunger; screams that sound drastically different than you’re used to are an alert that she’s not feeling well), but a slow, building wail is usually the cue that baby’s exhausted (welcome to the club, kid), and , it may be time to teach her how to sleep.

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Sleep training doesn’t have to mean CIO.
Our Sleep Training Guide walks you through 4 different methods.

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You’ll probably have to sleep train more than once.
All that work goes out the window when you’re hit with sickness, travel, moving, teething, or any change in routine. Get back on the horse as soon as you can.

The 18 Month+ Crowd

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The monster in the closet is real to your toddler:
Kids project worries, anger, and aggression onto the dark, and it can become a scary place. Get ahead of the beast by talking to your child about the dark as a peaceful, restful place. Later, address any fears and nightmares with empathy.

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Magic? Also real.
Assign a “magical” stuffed animal to protect and comfort him at night. Your confidence is key here. By the end of your coronation, you should also believe that that Jellycat can beam away bad dreams.

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Their bed should be the default in the night rather than yours.
Yes, it’s exhausting to carry them back there after they get all cozy in your bed but remember: the more comfortable they are in their own environment, the less likely they are to tiptoe into yours.

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There are a few sacred occasions where snail mail is still the only appropriate way to go: thank you notes, wedding invitations, and birth announcements. That last one can be tricky – no new mom has time to go down the Etsy rabbit hole to find a keepsake that lives up to her baby’s cuteness.

So we did it for you! Check out our short list of the best options out there, across a range of prices and styles. Make your top picks ahead of time and lose the risk of this task falling into the hands of a well-meaning family member with questionable taste (been there).

Because no baby deserves to be introduced to the world in Comic Sans.

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Mooseberry Paper Co

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Sugar Paper

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Egg Press

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Color Quarry

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Paperless Post

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Paper Heart Prints

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Alli Arnold

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Tinyprints

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Austin Press

$400 for 50

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