Don’t be a hero: let your partner help. Accepting help isn’t always about giving you time off (though that’s nice) it’s about letting your other half feel and be useful. And guess what: they usually are!
All Bets Are Off
Ignore anything your partner says between 1am and 5am – it doesn’t count!
Eat dinner without phones or TV so you actually talk to one another.
Couples Who Plan Together…
Use a shared calendar (we love google calendar). 1) Now you’ll know where the other is in case of an emergency. 2) It cuts down on tedious scheduling chats. 3) Date night!
Don’t Go It Alone
Hang out with other moms if only to realize how good you have it. Oh, really, you haven’t had sex in 9 months? (Silently feel awesome that you did it last week.)
In The Trenches
Sleep train as soon as your doctor says your babe is ready. If that fails, call in a sleep consultant. Sleep deprivation makes even small relationship blips feel like huge issues. If you can survive sleep training together (and you will), you can make it through anything.
The remaining tips are doable once your babe
is sleeping through the night.
One person sleeps in Saturday morning, the other Sunday. Pick your day and make it “you time” to sleep, read, exercise, etc. while your partner tends to the baby. And keep your hand off the Message app – they’re doing fine without you.
On weekends, each parent has a one-on-one activity with the baby (swimming lessons, grocery shopping, etc), giving the other an hour or two to run errands, work out, or binge on TV.
Each of you should claim a night of your own during the week where the other does daycare pick-up (or relieves nanny) and is free to work late, exercise, see a friend for dinner, or – gasp! – all three. Having a specific night lets you plan ahead and have something to look forward to.
Get Outta Town
Plan a weekend away before your baby turns 1. Have someone you trust watch your child, and go remember why you liked each other enough to have a baby in the first place.
Get a hotel room – sleeping in together for one glorious morning can do wonders for your relationship (not to mention the benefits of a little sexytime).
Have A Life
Your “me time” isn’t just for you – it’s for your relationship. Keep yourself sexy and interesting by seeing friends, hitting the gym or a class, and staying engaged with the world (read, girl!). It will give you something to talk about with your partner besides the baby.
Join The Babysitters Club
Have a regular sitter for date night either weekly or bi-weekly. Nothing to talk about with your other half? See a movie & then grab a bite.
Divide & Conquer
Split up household duties, so you’re each responsible for specific chores like food shopping (i.e. ordering from FreshDirect), laundry, necessities (i.e. ordering the essentials regularly from soap.com), paying bills, buying diapers, etc. You don’t want to be arguing at 3am about who was supposed to buy more toilet paper.